Make sure that jealousy and insecurity are not making you falsely accuse someone you care about.
Trust your instincts. If you think that your girlfriend is cheating on you, then ask her. If her answer is, "Oh, no honey. Of course not! How could you even ask such a thing? You know I love you and only you (kiss-kiss)," but you simply don't believe her, make sure your mistrust is based on something you witness or experience.
Think about what you would tell a sibling or a best friend to do in your situation. Is fear keeping you from following your own advice?
Discuss your feelings with your girlfriend. Tell her how her actions is affecting you. Explain what you're looking for in this relationship.
Listen to what she has to say. Her response to your concerns should give you the information you need to do what is right for you.
Inform your girlfriend of your decision, whether it is to forgive her and start over, have a brief separation while you figure out what to do..
Noticing a change in your relationship or her behavior would make your suspicion reasonable.. Ask her rather than keeping it to your-self. Asking her will make you feel the real love and care you have on her.
Do Not make false allegations !
Never let the situation get out of hand and become violent !
Always think about the source of your suspicion. If you "heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend who heard it from another she's been messin' around," forget it. It's not true. But seeing her with someone else, who looks clearly to be more than a friend, is pretty solid evidence.
Evaluate your girlfriend's behavior. Look for the little things. Is she suddenly changing her style? Does she seem to have less time for you? And worst of all, does she seem to have less of a desire to be with you? If you answer yes to most of these questions then it's possible your girlfriend might be cheating. It is helpful to write down some questions on a notepad and answer them. Make a promise to be honest with yourself. This puts everything into perspective.
Utilize the grapevine. Listen to what your friends tell you and look further into it. If your friends have seen your girlfriend with a new guy or noticed some unsavory behavior, it's likely they will tell you. When you find this out, don't react right away. Look further into the claims and find out if there is truth to any of the allegations or if they are just a mere coincidence.
Stage the confrontation. Once you've gathered all the evidence you need, it's time to confront your girlfriend. Don't be surprised if she is defensive and gets angry at you for questioning her loyalty. It's likely that she'll deny doing anything wrong and will have an excuse for every accusation you make. However, when it boils down to it, what you think is the only thing that matters.
Always remember : Trust is a key component in any relationship and without it, you are nothing...
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